Kemi Omololu-Olunloyo, the outspoken daughter of a former governor of Oyo state, Victor Omololu-Olunloyo, has revealed why she has not been enjoying s ex.
Olunloyo, known for her straightforward comments on social issues, told IBTimes UK during a recent interview that few African women (especially Nigerians) are willing to speak about their experiences with Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) which she claims is one of the reasons some of them have poor libido and urge for mating.
She has therefore advised such affected individuals to use s ex toys in order to get maximum satisfaction rather than sleep with men who are not likely to satisfy them.
“There was no anaesthetic and a sharp razor blade was used. I remember my sister and I screaming afterwards. We went home bleeding in diapers and, for a week, it was like we were little girls with menstrual periods. My mom was bathing us and diapering us. Deep down, mom was not happy for some reason.
“After years of resentment towards her mother, I finally confronted her in 2012. She burst into tears telling me that our late paternal grandmother ordered my dad to have us do it.
“This tradition is over 70-years-old. Our grandmother was a traditional Muslim woman who dictated many rules to her young son, my dad.
“Some women and girls, who undergo FGM, have their entire genitalia cut and “sewn closed.” My genitalia were only partially removed, meaning I did not experience difficulties while giving birth, however, the psychological and physical consequences of the mutilation still linger in my life.
“Calling it an operation is nothing. It was a cultural barbaric act used to decrease the female libido. It caused me post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for life.
“I don’t experience org asm during s ex and when I tried to promote the use of s ex toys among Nigerian women, men started attacking me saying I was discouraging African women ‘from the real thing’.
“S ex is not important. I have no libido or urge to have s ex and I’ve been celibate for 10 years. Millions of women in Nigeria go through this, but they cannot talk or be outspoken like me. It is shameful and a disgrace to them.
“Many women say they fake org asms and others have husbands who go out to pr*stitutes and girlfriends. FGM has destroyed marriages here.
“My mess*ge to girls who have been through it is to stay strong and get into support groups. Its better to educate girls about s ex education the right way, instead of cutting part of their genitals off causing a lifelong traumatic problem,” Olunloyo cried out.